Most of the time you
can say, “A wedding is a wedding.” Except when it’s not. There are other types of ceremonies that may
be had, which provide the level of commitment of a marriage, but without the
legal blessing that a wedding receives.
For some, a commitment ceremony is the right choice. For others, a hand-fasting provides what is
needed. So when is a wedding not a
wedding?
To begin with, a
wedding requires a license from the state in which it is performed. It is a legal union in which the bride and
groom (or brides and grooms) make a legal connection which is honored by the
legal system, and in which partners are able to receive benefits from an
employer, the state and insurance companies, for example.
There are situations
when a marriage ceremony, as above, would limit the parties to a wedding,
regarding those benefits, so the choice becomes one in which they wish to
profess their love and commitment as a couple, but avoid the legal, and
oftentimes, financial, limitations based on their marital status. This couple would do well to have a
commitment ceremony, which, generally, has language that the couple expresses
their love, honor and union with each other, without being legally a married
couple. Informally, the couple may
consider themselves married, but it is not a legal union.
The final option is
a hand-fasting, which, according to some pagan faiths, is a commitment of a
year and a day, with an option to make it a permanent relationship following
that period. There are several
ceremonies that are used to seal this type of relationship, including a ribbon
ceremony, in which the couple’s hands are bound together before being
withdrawn, creating an in-dissolvable knot that they enjoy as a keepsake. Some
individuals opt for Jumping the Broom, which involves placing a broom on the
ground, and the couple, following their vows, jumps the broom, symbolizing
their entrance into the portal of marriage.
From a legal
standpoint, your officiant is required to avoid language including “husband and
wife,” unless the ceremony includes a legal license. So long as everyone is aware what the
ceremony is all about, the better for all.
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